Question: “I’ve never sold my house before. Why is it frowned upon to be present when potential buyers are looking?”
Bottomline: You might say something that impacts the sale – almost always negatively.
The buyers can’t, don’t or won’t start to think of the house as something they could live in if the owner is there. As the seller you want a prospective buyer to think of themselves living there. They can’t do that when they see you, Mr or Ms. Seller, watching every move they make.
Seriously, now, just reverse the situation. Would you want an owner there as you walk through a house? Doesn’t that just feel a bit creepy?
You want them to be able to freely talk about your choices – paint colors, decorating choices, wallpaper, etc. How poorly designed the kitchen it for them, that the bathroom may need to be remodeled. All of these things were great for you, but it may not be for them. You want them to be comfortable discussing these things with their realtor and between themselves. If they can work out what they would do with your house to make it better for them, they might buy your house They won’t discuss those things if you are there.
Besides, anything you hear could make you become defensive and say something you shouldn’t say or start to think twice about the entire process. It places added and undo stress upon you, your real estate agent and can cause an unpleasant and uncomfortable experience for the buyer.
You, the seller, want the potential buyers to start thinking about how their furniture will fit in your house, how they might use the extra room up front, how their child would have fun in the new playset in the back yard.
The buyers don’t want to hear the stories about your kids, your family, your experiences in the house or the latest upgrade you made and how much it cost you to do so. They have a tough time imagining themselves there as it is anyway … make it easy for them.
Honestly, sellers, in their eagerness to try and get their home sold, just don’t know when to remain quiet. In a desire to be helpful and because you’re proud of your home they want to highlight or amplify what they think is important or what matters but that may not at all be what the potential buyer cares about.
So all you, the seller, have now done is pushed the buyer away instead of drawing them in, which is the exact opposite of what you were trying to do.
Ok, here are a few more reasons why not to be present during the showing of your own home….
1) People are very judgmental. You may be having a bad day, not looking your best, etc. They will judge you just by the color of your socks or the way you wear your hair that day.
2 ) Buyer’s will pick you apart and play you like a fiddle, trying to find any reason why NOT to buy your home or any reason to negotiate you down off the price. And remember a buyer’s agent is not your friend! They work for their client not for you. If you as a seller want to tip your hand and give away information that can harm you in a negotiation then by all means …. So anything you say can and will be used against you!
3) Most people who have expensive homes don’t hesitate to let their homes be shown without being present, but people with the less pricey homes sometimes act like their house is the last houses on earth. My job as an agent is to walk thru with my client but people are not there to rifle through your belongings. They are just going to walk through the house and try to imagine themselves living there
- The buyers don’t want to see you because they want to discuss the home freely without the sellers being present. Your presence makes you look desperate and makes the buyers uncomfortable.
Trust your realtor and their realtor. Let them do their jobs.
If you must be there, just be there for a moment to meet, greet and go! Let them in and go run errands or go grocery shopping. Let them know to take their time. And oh yeah, pen up your animals and take them with you!
**Ryan Wheeler is an expert real estate agent and military veteran serving buyers and sellers of homes in the Shreveport-Bossier City area. Connect With Me Here


